Weight Loss Psychology for Women: Getting Empowered By Making Your Word Count

Weight Loss Psychology for Women: Getting Empowered By Making Your Word Count

When it comes to weight loss, there are three things over which we really have control in life. One is what we think, one is what we eat, and the third one is how we move and exercise. And it all begins with your attitude. If your life is set up in a way that doesn’t allow you that freedom – provided you’re an adult – then you’re in bigger trouble than you may think.

“Attitude is the mind’s paintbrush, it can color anything.” –Dr. Susan Smith Jones

We all like to think that our thoughts are just happening without us. When we eat, we either eat what our sweet tooth, the media, our life circumstances, or the time of our lunch breaks dictate. And the exercise part is being dictated by time and excuses…we either don’t have time or use that as an excuse.

But the fact is – and there will come a time in your life when you will painfully realize that we and only we are in charge of our thoughts, the food we eat and what priority our health has in life.

If you are a spiritual person, please make the following visualization. Imagine that you have just gone through death, and now you are standing face to face in front of God. Imagine that he asks you how you were thinking about his gift, your body, throughout your life and you would say, “Well, dear God, I couldn’t really decide what to think, my head just kept thinking without my interference.” Do you really think that God would respond, “Poor thing, you were so burdened with a disobedient brain. Of course, then it was all your brain’s fault and not yours.”

God’s next question then is, “Now tell me, dear, how have you been taking care of that gift of mine, your body? Did you feed it with the best food, and did you move it regularly as it needed to be moved?” And you would answer, “Well, you see, dear God, the situation is this; I was so busy with my job that I could only eat microwaved food, and there was simply no time to exercise. When I came home from work, I was too tired to go out for a walk.” And then, of course, you would expect God to say, “Oh dear me, you were really burdened, and I fully understand that you simply could not eat healthily and not move your body as it was supposed to be your duty.”

Or would God say something like, “Well, my lovely daughter; I gave you a brain to think; I gave you a heart that connected you to me what gave you instant access to me at any second of the day whenever you wanted; I gave you a body to be my agent in your city, and I gave you the freedom of choice so that you could learn by making mistakes. But you didn’t use my gifts well and gave your power away to bad habits, other people, circumstances, and excuses. You didn’t pass this test, and you will have to go back and do it better next time.”

So tell me, which scenario makes more sense and is more likeable?

We are in charge of our thinking, our emotions, the words we say and the actions we take.

Here is a test for you to find out whether or not you are in charge of your thinking, your emotions, your words, and your actions.

Is your life exactly the way you had dreamed it when you were young, and is it exactly the way you want it to be?

If your answer is a wholehearted, ‘Yes,’ then you’re probably doing a lot right.

But if your life isn’t the way you want it to be, then look at your thinking, your habits, and the actions you take. If your health is not what you want it to be, look at how you’re treating your body.

If you wake up in the morning and immediately think, “Gosh, what shall I wear today? I’m wondering whether the spaghetti I ate for last night’s dinner showson my scale today.” Then the next thing you do is step on the scale, and there is a 50:50 chance that you will not be happy with your weight. So your thinking goes around all the reasons why you’re not happy with your body and this determines your mood of the day.

habits to lose weight, weight loss habitsYou may believe that your weight determines your attitude and that this was normal. But it’s actually the other way around. The mind always influences the body. Therefore, before taking care of our weight, we have to take care of our mindset. It begins with your attitude!

“The greatest discovery of this generation is that the human being can change his life just by changing his attitude.” –William James

The thing is, when you decide to do something – like eating healthier and going for a daily walk – and then you don’t follow through with it, you lose self-control, you lose self-esteem, and you lose your integrity…step by step, each time you don’t follow through with what you said you would do.

When you don’t follow through with what you say you’re going to do, you probably think, “What does it matter! Nobody knows!” But that’s not true. YOU know. And not following through with your promises to yourself takes a hit on your integrity.

And even if nobody knows what you promised yourself, because of the fact that YOU know, you change your energy, your vibrations. You ooze the energy, “I can’t keep my commitments,” and subconsciously, people around you will recognize and stop trusting you without knowing why. They just have a bad gut feeling about you.

Commitment to a weight loss program – of course, it has to be one that has the chance to bring you lasting results and no diet can ever do that for you – can lend stability to your everyday life. Because, with each daily action, you reaffirm your commitment, and that brings a feeling of empowerment and increased self-esteem. Now, instantly, your energy changes and people around you can sense that as well.

It’s through our everyday behavior that we get serious results and create a life we want and like.

“Commitment means you ‘ve got to get past your excuses, follow through on what you say you are going to do, make your word count and be responsible and accountable.” –Dr. Susan Smith Jones

There is one exception: weight loss diets, and I highly recommend to better make a commitment not to follow a weight loss diet. They are designed in a way that it’s simply not possible to follow through because your body lacks vital nutrients and will sabotage your attempt to follow through with the diet. You simply can’t win with any weight loss diets. Therefore, you should first do some research to find out what really works and be willing to give your weight loss process time. Any quick fix can’t work long-term, and what you want is long-term success. You want your diet to be a healthy one that provides your body with everything it needs. You want a healthy lifestyle you can implement. You want maintainable weight loss. For such a goal, you have to be willing to give yourself enough time.

Once you find such a strategy, make a commitment to follow through with it, get past your excuses, and take action every day until you reach your weight goal. And I promise you; you will be stronger than ever before. Make your word count and be responsible and accountable.

So you’ve got to follow through on what you say you are going to do if you want to lose your weight for good.

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A few years ago, I did an interview with several health and weight loss coaches with a different approach than the diet approach. One of these experts was the bestselling American author, Dr. Susan Smith Jones. She quickly turned out to be one of the most amazing interview partners, and she spilled the beans in that interview. She held nothing back. If you want to hear the whole interview with Dr. Susan, you can go here and claim your free 2-week membership trial.

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How Excuses Obstruct Your Weight Loss Process (Part 1)

Excuses (1)“It’s in my genes.” “I can’t afford it.” “I don’t have time.” “I have an incurable disease.” “It’s impossible.” “I’m too old/too young.” “It’s too hard.” “I can’t.” “I’m not strong enough.” “It runs in the family.” “I’m not fat, I have a large bone structure.” “I don’t have enough willpower.”

These are all excuses that keep you from reaching your weight loss goals and living a healthy and fulfilled life.

But are they true? 

They are not. All excuses are untruths and misalignments. They are just that: excuses. Excuses are never based on the truth but on what currently feels convenient. 

Excuses (3)Everything we do or don’t do in life is a choice. The unhealthy lifestyle is a choice, just as surely as the healthy lifestyle. Who can change our lives, if not us? We have been given everything we need to live the life we feel deep inside that we are meant to live. 

Underestimating ourselves is not really a compliment to our creator. 

No matter how overweight you are, no matter how ill you are, no matter how old you are, no matter how tired you are, no matter how little money you have…there is a way out of your current weight situation. But never forget one thing, you have to show up. You have to take the driver’s seat. You have to be on your own health and weight loss team. Without your collaboration, no one on earth can ever help you to become better. You could have the best weight loss coach on earth, yet she couldn’t help you if you don’t show up.

 

The effect of excuses

When you are using excuses like “I don’t have time,“ “I’m too old,” “I’m too sick,” “I’m too tired,” or “I can’t afford it,” you are saying nothing else but that this Universe is not working, that it’s not perfect enough, that it has flaws, that the Creator has made mistakes. Well, could it be that – just maybe – we are the ones who are making the mistakes? 

Excuses are nothing less than limitations that prevent us from changing anything in our lives for the better. Excuses enable things to remain as imperfect and bad as they are. They make us feel weak, little, unfit and unable. They make us feel like victims. Excuses are the greatest dream killers there are. They make us un-free. We create limitations for ourselves that do not even exist, and thus build a cage around ourselves. We literally lock ourselves up.

“We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible.” –Francois de la Rochedoucauld

Excuses (3)By using excuses and believing in them, we are unable to live our life’s purpose. When we are on purpose, our inner guidance shows us step by step what we have to do. But when we are using excuses, we not only cannot see these steps, we are unable to take them because we are limiting ourselves. A life of purpose is not possible as long as we use excuses. 

Then our excuses, or at least our willingness to believe them, are happily used by those who intend to manipulate us. They tell us that it’s all our fault that we haven’t been able to lose weight yet, that we’ll be forever unable to lose weight, we’ll be fat for the rest of our lives, and poor to boot, etc. This is how we can be manipulated. Of course, they will offer the ‘appropriate’ answers or cures, and this is seldom cheap. The more we allow these people to infiltrate us with fear, the more easily we can be manipulated, and the more they can benefit from us financially. 

All too often we forget that all the answers are within us. As soon as we realize who we are and recognize that we have been given all the power we need in order to change our lives, to attain and maintain a slim and healthy body, miracles can happen. And they do happen.

“Truth be told, you really don’t give a hoot about what somebody else ‘can’t’ do. But hey, guess what? Nobody wants to hear any of your excuses either. That’s right; nobody cares about what you can’t do. N-O-B-O-D-Y.” –Greg Hickman

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“I can’t”

The excuse “I can’t” is very widespread – and it is a lie. Of course, we do not lie purposefully, but we use it subconsciously in order not to have to take a leap of faith and challenge our self-made limitations. If we listen deep inside ourselves we find out that it is not that we are not able or capable of doing something, but that we do not want to. The explanation “I can’t” is used too easily and too often. And the problem is that we start believing it ourselves……sort of. Of course, deep down, we know that this is not true. 

Believing that you are overweight because you have a large bone structure is exactly the same as saying “I can’t.” It’s like saying, “It’s not in my hands whether or not I’m going to lose weight,” “I can’t change my habits in order to lose weight,” “I can’t exercise,” “I can’t live a healthy lifestyle,” “I can’t quit smoking,” “It can’t be done,” “I can’t eat healthy,” “I can’t do without my coke.” 

Only when you listen carefully to other people’s excuses will you realize how ridiculous they really are. But we are far more tolerant of our own excuses. By believing that we “can’t,” and that weight loss is difficult, we are destroying our lives – nothing more and nothing less. It is not the  extra weight that is killing us. It is our own belief system and the excuses we make day in and day out. 

By telling ourselves or others that we can’t, we limit ourselves tremendously. We’ve known for decades that human potential is simply enormous and that most people use less than 10% of their brain capacity. We have absolutely no idea what we might be capable of. How can we say “I can’t,” when we haven’t yet tried out all the possibilities? Likewise, how can we state that it’s impossible to lose weight since we have not yet turned every stone? 

Recently I received an email from a free member and she asked me why she should pay for my  Membership Program. She went on to tell me that she has been searching for solutions for 3 years and that she has already spent thousands of dollars. Guess what! Maybe she has to spend 3 more years and thousands of dollars more until she will find her answer. It took me 13 years and tens of thousands of dollars to find the answer to my weight problem I am now willing to share with you so that you don’t have to search for years and spend thousands of dollars like I had to.

Yes, sometimes we come to the point where we get tired and discouraged. That is okay. It is part of life, and it is part of every goal achievement process. But just because we have not yet found the answer we are looking for does not mean that we should give up. The problem, however, with this lady is that she is standing in front of a door that could give her the answers she is so desperately looking for, and she does not even realize it. She has arrived and is not able to see it. Why? Because the concept “I can’t,” “nobody can help me” and “I’ve tried everything and nothing worked” currently is stronger than the awareness that the answer is right in front of her nose. 

Excuses (4)I’m not blaming this reader or anybody else. It is not my job to judge or to criticize. We have all been there. We all have our blind spots. 

The truth is, there is nothing in the whole Universe that could not be solved, as long as we act within the Universal Law. We literally live in a limitless Universe. There is no limit to healthy foods, there is no limit to money, there is no limit to beauty, there is no limit to perfection……Limits have been overcome in history over and over again. 

So our response to challenges should not be “I can’t,” but HOW can it be done?” This shift in attitude suddenly opens doors and new possibilities we have never seen before. 

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(Part 2 will be published in one of our next issues)

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